One of the hardest things to do in life is to ask for help when you need it. This can be especially scary when you’re feeling vulnerable, perhaps like now, when a rejection or let down would be particularly hurtful. It’s times like these, in our most vulnerable states, when support is typically needed most.
It goes without saying that you would benefit immensely from one person or a group of people that can help you through this difficult time. But what truly makes someone a good supporter? What should you expect from those you call on?
You want to choose individuals that make you feel valued and worthwhile, even when you don’t see it in yourself. You want to choose groups of people that make you feel like you belong and that also have a sense of duty to each other. You want to choose people that make you see the fun and joy in life again, even if at first, it’s only a smile here and there.
These may seem like no-brainers, but if your main support system has been and still is people who use marijuana, this can be really challenging. Or maybe you don’t feel comfortable telling anyone about the fact that you smoked. Know that support can come in many forms, from keeping you busy when you need a distraction to taking the time to listen and talk you down when the gloom sets in. Different people can serve different roles during this process, especially as your needs change over time.
Use this as another opportunity to take stock in the relationships you do have and to work towards creating new or strengthening existing authentic bonds. Support groups, either online or in-person, can also be a fantastic resource. Just know that you should never feel like a burden. Be proud of the progress you’ve made and continue to make.